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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I just learned a friend is anorexic. 
And I’ve learned there was a lot of lying about the past.  (Unexplained absences, many doctor visits, hospital stays, etc.)

Personality is very consistent with many other anorexics.

How many people have been able to maintain a functional relationship with an anorexic, whether a work or family or friend relationship?

I’ve heard it’s much like borderline personality disorder.[/quote]

It sounds like you are attributing or correlating a lot of your friend's negative personality attributes directly to anorexia rather than perhaps saying or seeing that they performed a function for her.   People with addictions in general (not just anorexics, but all kinds of addicts) lie a lot.  In order to maintain a facade of normality.  It's not specific to anorexia.  Neither is anorexia specifically correlated to BPD.  Studies show that starvation brings on or manifests a host of psychiatric symptoms.  That is, starvation itself will cause any normal person to behave irrationally.  So it's impossible to say whether the BPD was there or not.

OP, if you don't want to be bothered, then drop your friend.  You don't sound like a compassionate or particularly nice person.[/quote] You must have not read the research above. Nobody is saying you must be BPD, but there is a clear correlation between BPD and anorexia nervosa.

Don't argue with us -- Arthur with the research that establishes the link as true .[/quote]

Whatever you say, Arthur.[/quote]

Quite a challenge to admit you are wrong. Not everyone is up for it, but it does take some confidence and insight, so probably not likely on this thread..[/quote]

DP.  What the other poster is pointing out is that correlation does not mean causation.  And that even with a correlation, not all people with a food disorder have the same personality traits.  You, however, are intent on painting everyone with the same brush.  Which is better - to see each person as she or he is OR to see only the disease?  I know which answer I choose (the first) and you (obviously) choose the second.  IMO you are wrong to see only the disease but keep on doing what you're doing and let us know how that doesn't work for you.[/quote]

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