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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, I am the PP whose husband has prosecuted many child molestation cases.

I disagree with the PPs who want to immediately call the police, CPS, the school, etc., on the parents.  You need to think of what is in the child's best interests--the little boy who abused your son.  He needs to be heard and protected and healed.  If his parents are involved in whatever caused him to act out this way, then he needs to be protected from them.  But if his parents are loving and concerned, then he needs them.  He does not need to be ripped away from them by a bureaucratic machine that takes on a life of its own.

Think of it this way:  what if your friend, the other boy's mother, talked to her husband last night, and he said, "Maybe their son started it!  We need to call CPS on them right away!"  And then CPS showed up at your door, and you became flustered and defensive, and they came back with the police to take your son away for questioning without you?

I would give the other mother a chance to demonstrate she is taking this seriously before involving authorities.  The other little boy is 4, right?  If this is handled carefully, he may grow up and forget these events ever happened.  The chances of the little boy serially molesting other children are probably smaller than the chances of making a big deal out of this and completely changing the course of his life.

Just make your decisions based on the Golden Rule:  do unto others.  Wouldn't you want to be given a chance to address your son's issues as his mother?  Wouldn't you want to be respected in that way?

Of course, as I said, it is always possible his own parents created this situation--that they are the problem themselves.  You do need to follow through, and make sure the culprit is found.  But it could permanently devastate that family to involve the authorities so soon.  Please give them a chance.[/quote]

Your husband prosecuted child abuse cases and you think that kids just grow up and "forget what happened". Honestly your advice is the most disturbing thing on this thread. Get your head out of your ass. Do onto others means THE CHILD AS WELL.

No one is saying call the police to report the other kid as an abuser but there needs to be an investigation into why a 4 year old is acting out child abuse. He is a victim and needs help.

I hope to god your husband is better at his job than you are and this is just a case of a SAHM thinking you get qualifications by osmosis.[/quote]

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