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[quote=Anonymous][quote]we just signed another year lease, we have joint credit cards, my car and insurance is in his name and he has my half of a downpayment for our future house in his savings account. Can't forget half the stuff in our apt was purchased together[/quote]

I'm very sorry about the break up. I think its best to assume its permanent. Can I ask how old you both are? Regardless, you will eventually get over him, but that will take time. And trying to "prove" you love him won't do anything at all--you need to stay strong and take care of yourself. His loss, remember?

But what really worries me is the above. You need to start straightening out out right away.

1) why is your car in his name? is it only in his name? Is it your car (who paid for it, etc)? Figure this one out soon. 
2) do you have any written documentation of your downpayment? Get that money out of his saving account ASAP. 
3)Joint credit cards: this is easier, unless you carry a big balance. Immediately apply for your own card, in the meantime, pay off your debts, make sure he pays his, and then close the accounts. 
4) lease: is this a one bedroom or is there possibility of getting a roommate? What are the terms for breaking the lease? If you can get a roomate or swing rent solo for a while, I would suggest asking him to leave. Actually--whose name is the lease in? both of yours? If it is in his name only, you ight consider moving out, dividing up the stuff and starting your new life solo. But make sure you get that downpayment and your car in your name before you do anything!
5) not trying to kick you when you're down, but keeping finances separate until marriage is a good idea, whenever possible (and I speak from experience, having been in a similar sitution and got financially burned, although I was the one to end the relationship). [/quote]

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