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[quote=Anonymous]OP, my heart goes out to you. I had twins when I was working a super stressful job and when people asked how I did it I always said--actually, twins is easier than a toddler than an infant. You are in one of the HARDEST stages, one kid nursing/waking you up at night so you are sleep deprived, and toddler in demanding stage PLUS pandemic.

A few suggestions--SLEEP! Remember that sleep deprivation is a form of torture that leads to psychosis. Literally, it can be used in that way. So the way you are behaving can be super heavily influenced by that. Ask DH if there is a way you can switch off on sleeping in on a weekend morning or one of you take both kids out so the other can sleep. 
--LEAVE EXTRA TIME. I am the kind of person who hates to be late, and I find that I tend to freak out when it takes forever to get the kids in the car and then we are late and I lose it. Plus something is always bad about DC traffic.  I developed a pre-pandemic rule that I would check the google maps time and then add 10 extra minutes to every trip That way I am less stressed getting out the door and in the car when I hit traffic.
--FOOD.heartily endorse the "bring snacks/let them eat in the car"
--DISTRACTION. your oldest is not quite there, but maybe she is close--something like CD books/audible books where there is a picture book that goes along? Plop her in the car with that, even if it's only a short ride home. Amazon sells a bunch that are short versions of Moana/Frozen/Lion King, etc. 
--EAR PLUGS. This is my gift to all new parents. I personally find screaming or crying, esp. if you have a colicky baby, puts me over the edge when I am already tired. I always put in ear plugs when holding/walking a crying baby. You can still hear them, but it makes it less ear-splitting. Same for dealing with toddler tantrum. Plus put them in whenever you try to take a nap or it is your turn to go to bed early/sleep in. You'll still hear if there is real screaming, but it makes you less likely to wake up at small noises.

I know it seems super far away, but in about two years one morning you will wake up and wonder why no kid came to get you. And you will find that your children woke up and are playing quietly together. And that will happen more and more and things will just seem delightful. Hang in there, OP, you got this!

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