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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]DS is Asian, age 9, 7th percentile for height and weight. I just took him for his annual physical in December and his doctor mentioned his small percentile but said he was developing normally and that this size was normal for him given his parents’ sizes. We are both Japanese-American and short and thin. DS is in a private school with mostly white American students and is the smallest in his class. His teacher makes a big deal out of his size, pointing out how small he is to the class, expressing concern that we don’t know how to provide good nutrition. Is this racism? How should I handle this teacher’s concern? I’ve tried pointing out what the doctor says but that is not alleviating her concerns. His school is in person most of the time right now. Should I bring it up with an administrator if she continues?[/quote]

I'm a former teacher and just like any profession, there are some really mean and terrible teachers out there. Honestly, they are mostly rare because teachers are usually awesome but there are definitely teachers who have an ax to grind.

Something purely by noticing patterns, is that if you are a minority and are wealthy, sometimes teachers who are highly educated but mostly middle class will sometimes do things like you've described because they don't really have any other way to feel power. It's kind of like knocking you down a little. I've had it happen to me in different situations. I'm not sure it's racist, annoying as heck for sure. My DD is very tiny and I'm very sensitive to people making comments because I've tried everything under the sun but she is naturally thin.

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