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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Younger female here, but if they are actually staring, then [b]maybe they are thinking you are a bit old to have a child.[/b] When I see a much older woman pregnant and I know their age, I start calculating how old they will be when the child grows up. [/quote]

I have to admit that I think this to myself sometimes.  There have actually been times when I have been unsure whether or not a woman with a small child was the child's mom or grandma.  I don't dwell on it, it's just a fleeting thought. A lot of times older moms look tired or worn out (not all, but many) and I can't help thinking that I'm glad I won't have a child under 5 when I'm 45+.  My mom had me when she was older and she SAH full time until I entered middle school.  She always made us feel like we were in her way.  She was very impatient and did not seem to enjoy being around us, and was often "too tired".  I'm not saying this is everyone's experience, but this had a huge influence on my decision to have children earlier rather than later, and the fact I happened to get married at 26 :)[/quote]

My mom was a young mom and she was always too tired, too. My grandmother cared for us more than my mother did. OP: try not to think about what others feel. You are very fortunate and I wish you the best. If you didn't feel up to the task - then you probably wouldn't have even considered TTC. I find that those that judge are those that are insecure.[/quote]

I agree - my mom had me when she was 21, and had no time for me.  She is in her 50s now, and is a wonderful grandmother, with lots of time and energy for her grandchildren.[/quote]

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