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[quote=Anonymous]OP, I hear you! I get these, as well. I only have one (also a 3 yr old), which I'm sure makes it easier. I don't yell at my kid but really take it out on my partner sometimes. It just builds up and then I pop off and can be vicious. And while I'm not yelling at my kid, she can hear it, and that's not great either.

The thing I've found most helpful is communication with my partner so that we can find ways to keep it from building up like that. I was in a pattern for a while where every time I was under a lot of work stress, this would happen. We figured out that the reason why is that I tend to take on a lot more of the household and childcare stuff, which is manageable when work is quiet, but I become very resentful when I'm on a tight deadline. So we've reallocated some of our tasks to make it more even, and that's helped a lot. I also have gotten better at telling my partner when I'm about to get busy with work, and he's gotten better at actually hearing me when I say that and asking how he can help to make sure I have the time I need to do my work and also take care of myself.

I've also gotten better at building time into my day when I get a break -- my morning tea, my evening run, my quiet time without my partner after the kid goes to bed. 3 yr olds are relentless and even when my kid is being sweet and wonderful, sometimes I just get so worn out by the constant questions, requests for snacks, big emotions, and sometimes rigid behavior. I've been told by friends that it's the hardest year and I think I agree. I certainly hope 4 is easier![/quote]

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