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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm 23:07 from yesterday.

This morning I was at my clinic and heard someone confirm their birthdate and they were 6 years older than I am. It just sounded old to me because I already feel so old...but when I saw the woman, there looks like there are a lot more than 6 years between us. I get that I'm lucky that I look on the young side and most people think 33 instead of almost 39, but age is relative anyway. I feel old!

OP, I'm wondering how you look and if maybe that is part of it? Not that you can change this, but I'm thinking that there has to be something that's resulting in this across the board reaction. Do you look your age or older or dress /act it? I've seen women come into the waiting room and they look so grandmotherly to me. 3 inches of gray hair coming from their roots they haven't dyed in months, very wrinkled faces, wearing matronly clothes (granted this could be what they have to wear for work) and no makeup. I'm sorry - I know this is rude, but I am often shocked by what I see. I don't get all fancied up for blood and sono's, but I don't go out of my way to look 50 like it seems some women do. Appearances can really be the whole reason here too in addition to my answer yesterday about them being concerned for your health.[/quote]

NP.  This would be me.  All the women in my family age quickly, except for our reproductive systems.  I've never really cared that much about looks or clothes (I'm shocked that another person would pay enough attention to my hair, clothes, and makeup to be shocked by my choices), but I've started dyeing my hair again just because I was so sick of being mistaken for my baby's grandmother.  I never got the silent treatment as an old mom, but I did hear a lot of tactless comments.  Most of the comments came from women who had children at a very young age.  When I was pregnant I saw a practice of midwife and a MFM and no one at either office was weird about my age-in fact when I told the MFM that I probably would not have more children because of my age-he told me about a patient in their practice who was fifty, pregnant with her own eggs, and carried a success pregnancy.[/quote]

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