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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You said you weren't serious with him so why are you giving this so much though?

It would not have worked out for you in the long run.

Cut your losses and move on.[/quote]

OP here...because it seemed like it could have potential to last a very long time. I want a long-term relationship. I just don't want to get married again. I do not think family ever needed to know. [b]He said before he was not looking for marriage and kids[/b]. We seemed to be on the same page. This threw me. I would not have mentioned to family if marriage and kids were not in the future...I feel that this could have been the long-term relationship I wanted that did not have to result in marriage. I see no reason family needed to know unless marriage was discussed. It wasn't. [/quote]

With you OP, he was not looking for marriage and kids WITH YOU.
His family on the other hand will absolutely be looking for those things, again not WITH YOU and so they have forced him to reconcile with their plans for his life.
He made his choice. Time to move on.[/quote]

What bothers me is that he is likely to encounter this backlash with every American woman. He said he was surprised the backlash was so bad but I was not.  He told me multiple times he is not interested in marrying anyone younger than 36 or women he has been set up with. He says he is over doing it their way. I thought he was beyond family pressure. I asked about this many many times.  The truth is is that the “ideal situation” (young, no kids, no baggage with an actual connection without a checklist) is just not going to happen here in the US by the time you hit 40. And he told me he didn’t want way that anyway. He had those opportunities and did not feel it and stayed single. [/quote]

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