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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]But if divorce, the child is then alone with the angry parent and without all the grown-up skills to protect themselves.[/quote]

I think same question for those that went through, if only 1 parent was angry but not physically, do you have thoughts on parents together v. divorced?[/quote]

This was me (my dad was a very angry person, while my mom always tried to defuse the situation and never engage with him) - as adults, my sibling and I encouraged my mom to leave my dad, but she never did (he died a few years ago). In the end, I'm glad my parents stayed together for the duration of my childhood, but as my dad's anger problems got worse, I think it would have been better if my mom had just left. But in our immigrant culture, divorce carried a lot of stigma and that was never going to happen. Even now, a handful of our family friends live apart but won't divorce.

Another thing that I think has been touched on - having an angry parent really puts you at risk for having dysfunctional behaviors yourself as a parent. I now see myself having a short fuse with my kids, and I have to either remove myself from the situation or count to ten and breathe. I also go to therapy regularly. I can see some of the same patterns in my dad repeating in me and I'm determined not to expose my kids to that. So think about that for your kids as well. [/quote]

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