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[quote=Anonymous]Adults, in adult relationships, actually communicate with each other.

Instead of crowdsourcing here, where you should already know you'll get mostly "He's gay, get a divorce" or "Snoop around!" answers, why not have an adult discussion with him? It does not have to lead with "Are you gay?" up front. But it does have to lead with "I want sex a lot, and you don't seem to. I don't know why we are not on the same page but we need to discuss this, and involve someone like a therapist if needed, because I love you but don't want to go on with what is a one-sided interest in sex."

He could be gay and closeted, sure.

He also could be straight and depressed (kills libido big time for some people).

He could have low testosterone or other purely physical issues which could be treated.

But you will never find out if you spend your time wondering and posting to strangers online. Ask yourself: Why can't you talk about something as fundamental as sex with your sexual partner?

Don't tiptoe around any more. Make a time when you and he can be alone. When neither of you has somewhere else to be soon. When your phones are both put away and turned off. And talk to him.

Or waste energy wondering, and then wake up in a few years and realize you wasted a ton of time by not bothering to be the adult and tell him what you're observing and feeling. Your choice. [/quote]

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