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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I may be reading way too much into this, but I'm guessing the two of you might be from conservative/religious families, since you mentioned being a virgin when you married.  With that assumption:

He may not have come out to himself yet.  He literally may not be able to admit to himself that he's gay.  When you spend your formative years hearing that being gay is evil and you will burn in hell, you convince yourself that you are straight.  When every example of being happy and successful is a heterosexual marriage with several kids, you can bury any same sex attraction and work to meet the clear expectations that have been laid out for you.

This was my experience until my mid-30's, and I know several other people who went through the same thing.  When I finally was able to admit to myself that I was gay, a lot of things clicked into place, but it still took several years before I was ready to admit it to anyone else.

Alternatively, could he be depressed?  That can do a number on your sex drive.[/quote]

Yes, he grew up in a very catholic home and his parents are big republicans. He always is verbally aggressive about letting everyone know how he feels about "the gays"[/quote]

If he’s homophobic then that’s a red flag.[/quote]

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