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[quote=Anonymous]I disagree with the BS about someone's love language and the idea that people who give gifts when you have asked them not to are generous. They are disrespecting boundaries. They are also contributing more off gassing junk to your home and to landfills if nobody wants it when you donate it. If someone says "please don't kiss me and you keep kissing them I think we all understand that is creepy as hell. Well when people repeatedly ask you to stop giving gifts and you ignore it, it is creepy and not generous.

I have a family member with personality issues who gives endless lousy gifts. She is actually not a nice person, but she tries to buy love perhaps to make up for poor behavior. I tried being polite and setting the boundary. I tried all sorts of tactics here. I finally told her I cannot control her behavior, but we do not want these things and she is creating work for me donating them. I said all we want from her is pleasant interactions and to stop trying to draw us into all her dramas. I also said we care about the environment and all of this stuff is bad for it. She did not stop. I no longer say thank you. I simply put it in a bad in out storage room and save it for the next time I give donations. She tries to engage and guilt trip about her gifts and I no longer engage. It is so sad that early on my kids have learned gifts aren't always selfless acts. If she so much as gave them a dollar store item she expected the moon from them.[/quote]

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