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[quote=Anonymous]Yes to wording requests in a positive not a negative way. When she spills something on the floor, if she is already stressed out and you say "don't step in it" she may hear, even unconsciously, "step in it." So instead, pause, think of how you want to say it, and say something like "please sit down while I get a towel" or "stand by the sink." She is so little--she doesn't know how to solve various problems yet, so you can give her directions. So instead of yelling at her "don't run" say "walk please!"

If she is screaming, show her how to calm down--this is called coregulation. The louder she gets, the quieter you get. Speak softly. Whisper. She will quiet down to hear you.

The more exercise you can give her, especially, outdoors, the better, so she will be tired and sleep well and stay calm. With warm clothes if you're moving around it's not too bad outside...for me the hardest part is getting the will to go out but once I do I'm glad I did.

Also agree with the PP who suggested hugging her tightly, and would add rocking her (do you have a rocking chair?), gently wrapping in a blanket, or swinging her (I like to stand behind and pick up under the arms--less chance of hurting her shoulders) or other ways to give her some sensory input and closeness with you.[/quote]

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