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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]How hard is it for two grown ass adults to just talk? “Hey, Christmas is in two weeks, what are your plans with Larla?” Ex and I communicate our plans as we both have our own families and spouses now. It is only difficult if you make it difficult. [/quote]

OP here. I had this exact conversation with DD's dad in early December. He said that he wanted to handle things as we did on Thanksgiving. On Christmas Eve he requested that I drop her off at 9 am, which is not what we did for Thanksgiving. This approach is not working, which is why I posted here. I would like to come up with an arrangement for next year right now so that there are no conversations two weeks before the holiday. I am truly not trying to make this difficult. I'm not out to punish him or make him look bad. [/quote]

Talk to him, not us.  [b]However, he gets very little time with her as she does him so you need to be flexible.  You get her ever day!!!  EVREY DAY!  You are punishing her, not him[/b].  He'll move on and be less involved if you don't encourage involvement as its not worth fighting as he'll be on the losing end so if you just want child support and little contact, just say so and tell him he can have her on XXX time as you are not going to be flexible with visitation and all he gets is what is court ordered when you allow him to even have that.[/quote]

Read the OP. This is the arrangement the dad wanted. [/quote]

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