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[quote=Anonymous]So much to unpack here.

The obvious answer is A.  But that's not even scratching the surface of the issues.

First, nobody writes someone out of their life over a single incident/statement/insult if they otherwise loved and cherished that person.  My guess is that there is a long history of tension - whether you recognized it or acknowledged it or not - and whatever happened at the bachelorette party is just an excuse because she doesn't actually want to have a relationship with you too begin with.  You need to go waaaaay further back to figure out why she dislikes you so much.

(Speaking as someone who had an on-again-off-again relationship with my own sister for about 15 years.  She could apologize until the cows came home for any specific incident, but the bottom line is just that I hated dealing with her constant attitude and drama.  Whenever it got to be too much, I'd take a break for a few years, and she'd go around acting like the victim because I wouldn't accept her apology for the latest insult when in fact it was years of minor things building up. We only truly reconciled when she mellowed in her 40s.  I thank her husband for that, he does an amazing job of tempering down her drama.)

Second, you truly don't know her address?  Ok, that's even worse than sis and I were at our worst.  If she moved without somehow getting word to you, she clearly doesn't want a relationship.  It's time to stop forcing it.  Just give her the gift and let her move on.  If and when she's ready, you'll know.  But don't be petty and hold back a present that you told her is coming, that's just childish.  [/quote]

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