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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I made a comment on a thread in Facebook, "real men do not play video games."  I got severely flamed for that one by all kinds of men telling me about their manly jobs, or military experience, and women attacking me too.  Gamers are VERY defensive about what they do.  Meanwhile, I've seen grown men, and even had one living with me who failed to launch from the time he was a teenager until finally leaving home about 30 years old.  Did nothing but game 8-12 hours a day.  Prisoners had move freedom than this kid allowed himself, locked up in his bedroom all day, playing till early morning, sleeping past noon.  It's very common but they to intervene and a gamer will say, well at least I'm not on drugs, gambling, etc, etc.  I think it's pretty sad in the extreme.[/quote]

Ok ... ?

You realize not everyone who plays video games does it for 8-12 hours/day right?[/quote]

Not pp. Sounds like Op's SO was neglecting his family that the wife was ready to divorce him, though. Was he avoiding responsibility as an adult? I think so. Could it be a stress response? Sure, but grow up or get help and adult anyway.

I actually agree with the person you are quoting. If this is seriously something you do to the point of distraction or for more than the odd metaphorical hour or two when it isn't your job, especially when it is just a single person alone staring at a screen and not even playing with friends (but even then it can become excessive). At that point, I think you are a loser and neglecting your family and show a lack of creativity, ambition and drive. I'd also wonder if you were depressed or had an addiction problem.

We see this with some of SO's coworkers that we are friendly with and they just zone out on video games after their day job is done. The kids and spouses are beside themselves and have to beg for any sort of interaction whatsoever. It's bad for everyone. Even the kids get bored with it (MS & HS) when he tries to get them to play. They just want their dad back.

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