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[quote=Anonymous]NP. You all with this "a baby that small is easy" either had very easy newborns, worked as infant nannies before having kids, or have forgotten what it felt like when you had a newborn, especially when they were your FIRST kid.

In *retrospect* I'd say a newborn was portable and easy (even though I didn't have a very easy baby). Compared to an older baby, and especially a toddler. But at the time?? It was totally new and kind of overwhelming! Boring, but overwhelming, if that makes sense. You all sound like the elderly women who are all "Oh, childbirth was easy, I didn't mind at all, I was milking the cows the next day."

I remember distinctly when my kid was 2 days old and we had to take her to the pediatrician for a normal newborn check. We got up at like 7 am and made an appointment for 12 pm, the TWO of us literally spent the entire time getting ready for a 10-minute drive and were STILL LATE. I don't know how! But we were!

It's great if the newborn weeks *for your first* were genuinely NBD for you, but I'm skeptical that was a common experience.

Anyway, OP-- your husband needs to be 50/50 taking care of things for the time he is home. Can you maybe use some tips and tricks to get a little more done while he's away? Sure. Can you let more things go? Sure. Is the couple of hours he spends w/the baby a good start? Yes.

But I don't get how he "relaxes" even part of the time when he's home while you do other things-- especially if you don't also get to relax part of the time. Maybe you do get a little downtime during the day, but odds are unless he's on his feet the entire workday, so does he! Do you surf the web while breastfeeding? Probably! Does he surf the web during lunch or a Zoom call? Probably!  [/quote]

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