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[quote=Anonymous]PP personally, I would avoid hiring a private investigator and simply go the DNA route, at least until you have more clues. If this is something her Bio mother Would hide, then IMO the worst thing you can do is give the information to someone in a foreign country whom you know very little about. Not only made they take your daughters money without doing anything, it is  possible that they would use the information against her bio mother. Moreover, it is likely to be very expensive. I would start via the DNA route. There are many people in the genealogy community who would help her for free. You can also read information on the link I gave you above regarding which  tests are used in eastern Europe. One section is about East European adoption. Read that and many of the truly excellent resources available online. You should also talk to the agency through Which you adopted your daughter, asking for more specific information. Clues help. For example you may find out that she was studying in that city but was originally from somewhere else. It may tell you the subject she was studying. Sometimes, the information includes a physical description or information about the father. I would suggest that your daughter also watch some episodes of long lost family, particularly the UK version. It can give her a sense of how difficult it can be. I like the fact that the show sometimes includes cases in which the ending was far from a fairytale .Your daughter should also be aware that one of the most common occurrences is finding another child who was also put up for adoption. This may not be a sibling, but may be another relative. Your daughter should not use her own name on this site but she create a pseudonym. Most of the testing companies Allow this. It is unlikely that her bio mother has tested. She will probably get a match, if she gets any matches at all, with a second cousin or another more distant relative. This information can help youIf you do eventually want to hire an investigator. One of The most important pieces of information you have is the birthdate of your daughter. Try googling the birthdate and the name of the town. If someone is searching for her that is the information they will post. You may also get a sense of How big a haystack you are looking through. [/quote]

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