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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My 5 year old son has serious behavioral problems (PDD and we think ADD-impulsive/hyperactive). We are working so hard all the time and have spent a fortune on play therapists, social skills, OT, psychologists, etc etc etc etc etc. It is depressing to realize that other SN parents are judging us just as harshly as NT parents when we are out in public having a bad moment. [/quote]

I don't think other parents are judging you but it's like the PP said - it comes down to how do you want to spend an afternoon and also how much do you want to subject your own child too?  As a parent of NT child, its not like I think those who have children with challenges are bad parents or are doing it wrong. Quite the opposite - I think many of them do all they can and spend infinite amounts of time and money to help their child. And I almost certain in the long run for most of the kids all the therapy and effort will pay off but that doesn't change the current situation and no amount of understanding makes me want to subject my child to a hours of playtime with a child who constantly hits, screams, strangles, tantrums, etc.  [/quote]

First off, I disagree. NP here and yes, some parents assume it's parenting. My neighbor tried to give me advice because apparently with 4 NT she is now the world authority on parenting. Se doesn't get that SN can present in all different ways and she is the one I posted about long ago who said "Your child is fine. Stop worrying. He doesn't look retarded at all." That is downright ignorant on soooo many levels.

That said, I understand what the parent of a NT child said. We've had playdates I've ended early because my child ends up miserable and has multiple bruises. We've had playdates where I don't think I can keep the child safe in my home. My heart goes out to the parents and I consider all of us to be part of the SN family, but injuring my child and/or highly risky behavior are deal breakers for me.[/quote]

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