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[quote=Anonymous]OP - There was a time when I felt very lonely as baby friends drifted away because their kids were so much easier.  We logged a lot of time with a lot of different therapies and things are much better.  That said, I have learned that there are moms who love my kiddo for who she is, who see her potential, and who work with me to ensure that playdates are positive for all.  And then there are parents who do not get it and never will get it.  So, that is my world.  A mom friend who does not get it not bad - they just do not fit in my life.  I put my focus on relationships that are positive, reciprocal, and have long term potential.

And accepting those facts if freeing - I do not have to worry about trying to be friends with people who are not welcoming to me.  I do, on the other hand, work very hard to be inclusive - and just steel myself to the fact that some folks will grab invites and be happy and others will not.  It is freeing to let go of worry.  I stand up straight, always smile pretty at the other parents and say hello to their kiddos (remembering their names and interests).  But I just make myself not care at my core whether they like us or not.  I just work hard to model good social skills for my kiddo.  So, through diligence, I have built a very supportive social circle, but it took work and it took being very thoughtful about other people's needs.

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