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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Don't birdnest, it's stupid. [/quote]

OP here. Why would you think so? I thought that it would be better for the child to stay in the environment they are used to and let the parents alternate. I know this is different, but we both travel several times a year for a couple of weeks at a time, so being with just one of us is not completely foreign to our DC. Also to clarify, I do not necessarily see this separation as a definite path toward divorce. I mentioned that I do not feel like saving the relationship, but I mostly meant under the current circumstances. Right now I can't even stand to look at my husband, let alone talk to him. I just don't want to be anywhere close to him. Whenever I walk out of the house for whatever reason I feel immediately happier. I am thinking of the separation  as a tool to figure out whether this is pandemic related or if the differences we are discovering on daily basis are impossible to work out at this stage. In case I conclude it is the latter I do not want to compromise my chances to retain custody of my child in case I am the one who moves out.  In that case I would be proposing 50/50 because my husband is actually a phenomenal dad. Unfortunately, that does not translate so much into being a great husband.[/quote]

Np - have you considered talking to a therapist and then a lawyer?  Usually a move out of the marital home indicates that there is little chance of reconciliation.  Also, it’s not good to yank the child around while mom and dad figure things out (eg if you move out and then decide to move back in).  It sounds like a better move for you at the moment would be into a separate bedroom.[/quote]

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