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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. Based on the lack of responses from those 50+ and the overwhelming responses from younger mothers, the resounding advice is to MYOB when it comes to their children even in dangerous situations.

Next time I'll just walk by. [/quote]

I'm 50+ and would guess it was the way you said it, not what you said.  As others have suggested, I would have said to the child "Hey, bud, careful there" and then smiled at the mom and said, "Oy, I had an acrobat just like this little guy."  That approach usually works for me, probably because the subtext is "I've been there, sister", rather than "You're not watching your kid."  [/quote]

+100

I think sometimes we forget what it's like to have young kids, and how often others (your friends, your mom, your MIL, teachers, etc.) will comment or just outright judge your parenting. I try to remember that every mom is doing the best she can, and needs support more than she needs criticism. Look for a way to be supportive, instead of a scolding.

I think it's also good to check yourself by asking if you would consider this person a "bad parent" if they were a father. I know my husband used to get nothing but kind words and compliments when he did things like take our baby to the grocery store or to the park. People don't criticize men on their parenting as much because they still think it's novel when they see a man taking care of a child and want to encourage it. If you wouldn't say something to a man about it, don't say anything to a woman (and maybe encourage young moms in the same way we encourage dads -- they probably need it more than you think!).[/quote]

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