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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Most of the prior posters in this thread sound pretty needy and with outsized expectations of the amount of attention they should be getting in outplacement.  [/quote]

Why is it needy or outsized expectations to expect a school to return your emails, let alone pick up the phone?  If OP isn't getting responses to her emails, that's actually pretty bad, and she's right to wonder if there's something going on.

Nobody here is arguing that it's the duty of every school to help [i]every[/i] kid get into their [i]first[/i] choice.  Or that a school could even make this happen for every kid....

But it would be stupid to ignore how these things work, behind the scenes.  This may -- or may not -- be an explanation (or a partial explanation) of what's happening with OP.  Of course, we shouldn't rule out that there's something else entirely, like OP is a PITA, or her kid isn't as promising as she thinks, or she hasn't donated a penny to her current school.  Only OP knows for sure.  But there are a bunch of possible explanations, and OP needs to understand this one, which is real and happens every day during admissions season.

11:53's "pointless" post does make one useful point amidst all the boasting.  Schools do encourage you not to talk about where your kid got accepted with other parents, and they tell the kids the same thing.  I think this is actually a kind and humane thing.  It's not just to spare the school the embarrassment of explaining why the kid with low SSATs but donor parents got accepted.  It's also the polite and kind way to behave around other kids, because not everybody gets into their first choices, for all the reasons we've been discussing here, both the good and bad reasons.[/quote]

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