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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You’re overthinking this. Have another kid if you want but having 3 does not mean that one is the odd man out. (Parent of 3, and one of 3 kids myself).[/quote]

I don’t think there’s anything wrong with having 3 kids but it’s delusional to claim it doesn’t create the odd man out dynamic. It’s like people who have only children insisting their child is NEVER lonely. These things are not insurmountable but they are a very obvious downside to your chosen family structure.[/quote]

+1  I'm the middle of three, my older sister and I are 19 mos apart and always extremely close.  My brother, 2.5 yrs younger than me, was absolutely the "odd man out" and it was hard on him.  My mom has said that she wished she'd had a 4th.  But, so much of this comes down to personalities and gender mix.  And, parents being mindful of the potential for that dynamic could do things to mitigate it.  For example, in my family if we weren't doing something together it naturally tended to fall that mom took the girls while dad took the boy. I was encouraged to do thing with my sister but not much with my brother. Splitting us up differently to nurture the sister-brother relationships more might have helped reduce that feeling of a divide.

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