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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]PPs are right, it isn't fair of you to not bring your DD to ILS for any holidays.  [/quote]
They are an hour in the opposite direction of my parents, who are an hour from us. It stinks, but I’m not driving an hour for dessert or whatever just to have a two hour drive home when we will see them that weekend. [b]Aren’t I already doing enough? [/b]Why pile this on me. And why is it my responsibility and not Dh? Why can’t Mil like someone said bring desert to me? It seems like everyone is expecting a lot out of me! [/quote]

Quite frankly, no.  You spend every holiday with your family because you don't view your ILs as family, and now you're furious that your ILs noticed and your kids do too.  If they're "an hour in the opposite direction of my parents, who are an hour from us," your ILs either live on your block or are the same distance as your parents.  Your side gets Thanksgiving, his side gets Christmas.  Then flip.

You won't do that because you think that it's somehow not fair that your kids should ever see them without DH instigating it.  But you're traveling for the holidays either way, and it's not more work to drive to one house than the other.  You sound intensely unlikable and that you've glommed on to one muttered [i]and extremely true[/i] comment as a way to make the case that you're hard done by does not help.[/quote]

Not the OP, and whatever.  She spends every holiday with her family because her husband doesn't value spending the holidays with his family.  Why should she forgo a holiday with her family to spend it with her in-laws (without her husband), and then visit them that weekend, too?  I would NOT be spending the holidays with my in-laws if my husband was choosing not to be there, and I like my in-laws.  The MIL's beef is with her son.  If I were OP, I would just ignore the comment.    [/quote]

You do it because it’s not just about OP, her husband and her MiL. It’s about her KIDS. [/quote]

The kids seem fine with the arrangement.  They get to see their grandparents on the weekend following the holiday.  [/quote]

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