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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Oh Op, I met a guy at the end of last year.  From the beginning, I told him that  I did not want kids. He was like, “oh, it is not a deal-breaker” “I think I want kids, but I am not sure.” Which to me meant, I want to have my kids.

Anyway, we continued dating. We found ourselves in a situation where we thought we were pregnant. I saw how excited he got while I was so freaked out. Fortunately, it was just a false alarm. 
By that time, we were like 7- 8 months in. I decided that best for both was to break up. For us, it was very sad. And it was just 7 months of dating. I still miss him A LOT. I wonder If I ever will meet another sensitive, caring, thoughtful, loving human being like him. But None of us want to give in.
 
I can imagine how hard it can be two years of dating. My reasons are almost the same as your girlfriend. I was a nanny for 5 years. Raising a child IS exhausting, expensive, tedious, and boring. The idea of losing my freedom and my “me time” terrifies me. 
I came from a big family. I had to help my mother to raise my siblings. I am done with kids!
On the other hand, he’s an adopted only child. So I understand he wants a family.

You need to have that serious talk ASAP.  If you both are settled in your decision (like we were), the best thing is to break up. I think for people that want kids, the dating scenario is clearer. For me, it has been hard to meet somebody childfree. A lot of women out there desperately want to have children. You will be fine. [/quote]

OP here. My girlfriend sounds like you. She also comes from a big family and has babysitting experience. She listed the same reasons as you about not wanting kids. I know I will have to make a decision but it's hard. [/quote]

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