Reply to Fostering as a single parent

Forum Index » General Parenting Discussion

Reply to "Fostering as a single parent"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]People do it but its very hard if you have a "great" career in less you hire a nanny especially with three kids.  The kids will probably have weekly family visits, lots of medical/dental appointments at first and can have weekly (or more) mental health, speech and ot therapies.  Can you handle doing all that driving with 4-5 kids and a full-time job?  You are probably better off waiting until your kids are in college and you have the time as its a very different need/parenting.  Its a wonderful thing to do but it doesn't sound realistic as its not as simple as just having one more child in your house as these kid may have a lot of needs.[/quote]

Thanks that is a good point. I have a nanny but would switch to a live in au pair if I fostered. [/quote]

Is an au pair going to be qualified to handle a foster kid with emotional disregulation, emotional problems, etc?  Your au pair from another country is going to be cool with an 8 yr old raging, screaming, breaking glass, running away, physically attacking her/him and the older siblings?  That's a HELL of a lot to dump on an au pair.  If I owned an au pair company and you did that through my company, I'd blacklist you. Not saying this to be cruel, but so you can be realistic.  [/quote]

It does sound a little cruel. I am not planning to "dump" children on anyone, thank you. I work about 30 hours a week and make a high 6 figure income. Because my kids are home all the time w COVID I was thinking an au pair would be a good solution here with my kids while I was doing such appointments and whatnot. I work from home so am always here. [/quote]

Please read the comments.  Please DO become a foster parent but just wait till your kids are in college.  Your kids still need a lot of attention and with three kids, they are competing between each other for your attention and then you add in a high needs child.  You can get lucky with an infant, but infants are pretty rare.  More than likely it will be a 2-10 year old and like others said, they grew up in very different environments with very different needs.  If you had one child, it could be much easier but if you take the foster child all the time to the appointments, how will that impact your kids if they are left to an Au Pair all the time.  Even if the Au Pair cares for your kids and you take care of the foster child, the Au Pair will have to be screened as well as any babysitters.

I don't want to discourage you at all from doing it, but wait till your kids are older.  [/quote]

I appreciate that. I know I wont want to do it once my kids have left home, so perhaps its not for me. Its quite obvious why foster families are so in need, I guess only the childless or SAHM families should do it. Bummer.[/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics