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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]People do it but its very hard if you have a "great" career in less you hire a nanny especially with three kids.  The kids will probably have weekly family visits, lots of medical/dental appointments at first and can have weekly (or more) mental health, speech and ot therapies.  Can you handle doing all that driving with 4-5 kids and a full-time job?  You are probably better off waiting until your kids are in college and you have the time as its a very different need/parenting.  Its a wonderful thing to do but it doesn't sound realistic as its not as simple as just having one more child in your house as these kid may have a lot of needs.[/quote]

Thanks that is a good point. I have a nanny but would switch to a live in au pair if I fostered. [/quote]

Is an au pair going to be qualified to handle a foster kid with emotional disregulation, emotional problems, etc?  Your au pair from another country is going to be cool with an 8 yr old raging, screaming, breaking glass, running away, physically attacking her/him and the older siblings?  That's a HELL of a lot to dump on an au pair.  If I owned an au pair company and you did that through my company, I'd blacklist you. Not saying this to be cruel, but so you can be realistic.  [/quote]

It does sound a little cruel. I am not planning to "dump" children on anyone, thank you. I work about 30 hours a week and make a high 6 figure income. Because my kids are home all the time w COVID I was thinking an au pair would be a good solution here with my kids while I was doing such appointments and whatnot. I work from home so am always here. [/quote]

The au pair would need to be background checked.  I think you'd constantly be on a hamster wheel of making sure your next au pair is background checked in time.  Also I have a hard time seeing this work if the au pair doesn't speak good English or good Spanish, so you'd be limited in your choice of au pairs.  I'm not sure it would be allowed, especially if the au pair is younger.  Caring for a survivor of abuse or neglect or a child who has otherwise experienced trauma, and may have developmental or medical concerns (diagnosed or undiagnosed) in addition to four teenagers is a lot to place on a relatively inexperienced person with very little training.  Even if you're allowed to do it, I have a hard time seeing it go well, and if it doesn't go well that's really not fair to anyone involved here.[/quote]

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