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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]What does he say about why he can’t call as he’s walking to his car? [/quote]
As I said, I’ve never asked. I always assume he’s on his way home, and he usually walks through the door at 6:30 sharp.

Should I honestly make him call every day and just assume I shouldn’t cook if he doesn’t call by 5:30? Is that the answer? If no call by 5:45, kids get nuggets and dad gets cereal? [/quote]

I would cut him out of the equation. If you feel like cooking for yourself and the kids then do but if you don’t feel like it don’t. Let him fend for himself. It sounds like you’ve been too accommodating for him. Let him heat up leftovers when he gets home. [/quote]

This is what we do.  It isn’t that great of a solution, though. Unfortunately, the consequence of not caring whether he gets home or not is that we don’t care if he gets home or not.  Because he can’t be depended on, DH has become more of a welcome visitor than a true member of the family.  [/quote]

This.  The consequence is a bad one for family feeling.  I've experienced it with my spouse in different ways (he's hypercritical, so I just stopped caring about his opinion because it was making me feel bad all the time.  But it's not a good thing not to care what your spouse thinks.  It's not a good thing to not care whether he is home for dinner or not.

So I would probably do something in the middle.  I would only cook meals that took 30 minutes or less, and/or were really easy and simple.  Also, I would only cook things that I really liked.  If he gets home on time, great!  If not, he can heat up leftovers, but I wouldn't feel resentful that I spent an hour making a meal.  [/quote]

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