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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Talk to women over 50. They're almost definitely not going to announce a pregnancy.[/quote]

Ive had the opposite experience. Older women just have no clue how common IVF is. And my older relatives either had zero trouble conceiving and don’t get it at all OR they struggled for years and are jealous we have options now. One let slip that our generation is “spoiled” for getting to run to a doctor after just 6 mo of trying. It can be such a goddamn a minefield to find an emotional outlet.[/quote]

Agreed. Older relatives weren't helpful. My own parents and my MIL stated that IVF babies were weak and not as healthy. MIL stated that IVF was a waste of money and not as God intended. Sigh. They were all in their mid 50s when they said this.

I actually never told anyone until I had my 1st. When I got to the mom's group I found tons of moms just like me. It was cathartic to have people to talk to. I will say though that so many of these women started off by implying I couldn't understand their struggles and how their kids were more wanted than mine. I think it's a mindset that women who have gone through infertility develop and it's a bit off putting to others. Particularly me since I was just like them. [/quote]

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