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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, thanks for the tips. I hereby apply to join the club. I am very sad to see my mom's anxiety get the better of her and cause such strain between her an everyone else. I am in the process of mourning the person I once knew. :([/quote]

That is exactly what goes on. You mourn the person you once knew and there is this constant adaptation to the every changing often much crueler person. The only upside is the times I am pleasantly surprised when things are calm and pleasant. It's fascinating how anxiety can lead one to act out so much with hostility and downright hatred. I wonder if it's nature's way of helping us be at peace when they eventually pass away. You bite the bullet and keep trying to be in the person's life and it gets harder and harder with maybe the occasional decent interaction. When the time comes, you are ready. I know I was with my other parent. Then over time you can finally access all the good memories better. I am losing those with my mother. Every outburst or verbal kick where it hurts makes it harder for me to remember the good. In fact, I was starting to wonder if the fact we were every close was real. Maybe I just had Stockholm syndrome. We clashed a lot when I was a tween and teen and from old diaries it seems like maybe she was always like this. Then we were so close in adulthood or were we?[/quote]

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