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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]May I ask, OP, were things like this while you were dating or pre-Covid? I hope it's just been 2020's stress that is causing your husband's behaviors, but even if it is, I do think counseling could help. [/quote]

OP here. Pre-Covid there was already some discomfort. I think there's always been a lack of a true soft place to fall. Lots of "I" language on his part, not "we," too. He knows what he wants and when it's also what I want, everything is great. When I start to disagree, well, then there's an uneasy feeling. I think Covid has really exacerbated things. We're stuck at home together more, of course. Stuff that was tolerable because I was able to get out of the house and decompress at work, even take a work trip or two, is becoming more and more intolerable. It's as if he's allowed to let it all hang out more and be who he is but the moment I don't fall into line, well, then there's a problem. Again, things have always felt a little too business-like and transactional.

As far as counseling goes, he wouldn't be into it. He'd probably just hurling a list of accusations at me and pointing out why everything including global warming is my fault. [/quote]

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