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[quote=Anonymous]Can you get a higher paying job so you can afford a cleaning lady once a week?

Also, view housework as time to relax. I play music while I wash dishes and fold laundry.  You really just have to push yourself.

I grew up with a depressed and paranoid mother who was socially awkward, and it took me over a decade after moving out to re-teach myself how to be social, with the help of very kind friends who would tell me things I had never picked up because I had so little experience being social.

I grew up in a house with a mother who was in extreme denial - she always claimed she worked SO hard being a stay at home mom but ... she didn't. If we were home sick we just laid in bed or on the couch watching tv - we got our own food, would ask if we could take tylenol or our medicine (or after around age 7 or 8, figure it out ourselves).

When my brother and I moved out and then went home to visit, we were horrified by how disgusting the house was. Our dad worked full time and did all the errands and laundry and most cooking.  I scrubbed the bathroom to get it clean enough we were comfortable using it, and my brother did the same with the kitchen.

I have sympathy for your situation, but you just really need to push yourself - either to get a higher paying job that will let you afford to hire help once or twice a week, or to do the housework yourself.

My brother and I will not stay at our parents house, and visit them less than once a year. We have sympathy for our mother but can not spend much time with her because it is a disaster for us.  [/quote]

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