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[quote=Anonymous]I am going through my first IVF process now. I haven't told anybody. My husband and I decided to keep it to ourselves. Sometimes I have come close to telling. Recently I was telling my sister how a friend of mine paid all the money for IVF then had it cancelled because she tested positive for Covid. My sister made a comment (something like), "I don't get why people that desperate don't just adopt. I just genuinely want to know WHY they go to all that heartache, money, and effort when there are other ways." I froze because I realized then that if that's how she felt about it, I certainly didn't feel like I wanted to confide in her and tell her all my reasons. I shouldn't have to defend my actions and explain all my emotions and why. So I just won't tell. And if I get pregnant, they won't know it wasn't natural. When I feel like I need to chat about it, I come to a board like this and read experiences of others. I don't feel like fielding questions and being a topic of family news. My SIL did IFV and my MIL (SIL's mom) posted on FB next to their birth annoucement something to the effect of, "After 8 years of desperation, a miracle from heaven" and it really sucked the attention away from the good news. Stranger friends of my MIL don't need to know a number of years, or have a label that the baby was a product of desperation. After seeing that, I'll just keep quiet about mine. The less I tell, the less I'll be upset about what they do with that information. [/quote]

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