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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I moved. The kids moved with me. They changed schools. [/quote]

This is exactly what OP does NOT want to do.[/quote]
OP asked what others would do in her situation. The first pp is not me, but unless there is something extraordinarily unique about my kids or the school such that I cannot imagine them moving schools, I would be open to switching schools instead of killing myself in staying at the same schools. I would really think about what sacrifice would be required to stay at the same school - in a real, practical sense, carefully examine the opportunity costs and what we will be giving up just to stay at the same school and try to assess if it's worth it.[/quote]

I agree with you and did the same in my divorce, so of course that is my recommendation in general with starting off this process. Don’t walk into it with uneccessary hard lines that may not be as valuable in the long term. But for whatever reason her emphasized priority was to keep the kids where they are. I feel like OP is looking for examples of the sacrifices she can make or be willing to consider. If she gets a good picture of that, it allows a better comparison to what you or I may do as alternative. I understand wanting to game plan what may seem to be the best option.

In my case, we moved and changed schools, but my dynamics are different than OP’s, and kids we’re younger.[/quote]

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