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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, I think you may have come to the wrong place to get useful advice.  If you can, ignore most of what you read.

You deserve to be cherished, and you deserve for your husband to be faithful to you in body, mind, heart, and soul.  As a Christian, you know Jesus said very clearly that even looking at another woman lustfully is committing adultery.  The feelings of rejection, betrayal, and sadness are normal--you are not the problem.  You don't need to "loosen up"--your husband needs to man up and be true to you.

We live in a time and culture that does not value fidelity, self-restraint, or true love.  Being countercultural gets harder all the time.  That does not mean you are wrong.  It means it is hard to do what is right.

Unfortunately, since this particular vice is near and dear to so many people, you will be surrounded by rationalizations.  Don't listen.  Lean on your faith.  Fight for your marriage.

There are plenty of good secular resources out there.  Check Pornified out at your library.  Look at yourbrainonporn.com.  There are lots of Christian resources out there, too.  I don't know what denomination you are, but confession followed by spiritual advisement would be excellent.

Porn is wrong.  Doesn't matter how many apologists it accumulates.  It is also a marriage destroyer--not because husbands lie and sneak--the porn itself is the problem.  Don't convince yourself for one second that you need to let him have his porn.  That's the same thing as saying you need to let him have his mistress.  You're instantly destroying the marriage to save it.

I know I'm going to get flamed, but this is too important to not say anything.  Google "pornography and divorce.". Pornography is a main reason for divorce now.  It is not harmless.  It is not fun.

People who say wives against porn are just against sex don't know what sex is all about.  Sex requires persons.  Porn reduces people to body parts.  Sex within your marriage takes place between you and your husband, OP.  No one else.

I hope and pray you do not give up.  Some things are worth fighting for.  True love, faithfulness, awesome sex--those are worth it.  Again, turn a deaf ear to the apologists.  Their agenda is opposed to yours.  God bless you and your family.[/quote]

Oh, and I forgot to add that the theory of evolution is a hoax.[/quote]

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