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[quote=Anonymous]Op, I think you have to make peace with what your parents are willing to provide vs your expectations. If they are open to it, you could gently request help in the way you need. But a) you can’t expect them to read your mind b) you can’t expect them to be a certain kind of grandparent that they are not.  Find a way to have them fit into your lives that works for you. If that means that in the beginning, you limit their visits because frankly you are tired and exhausted and they are unwilling to help, then so be it.

My mom was super anxious and constantly criticized the way I did things, and always clucked when I picked up and held my baby. But she was amazing with cleaning the house and scrubbing every dark recess of our house.  That’s what she could do well.  My MIL was possessive and overbearing and frankly always made the baby cry because she couldn’t read the baby’s cues nor did she listen to me when I told her the baby needed to nap.  So she saw very little of my babies when they were little, but she was great with them once they were older and verbal.[/quote]

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