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[quote=Anonymous]:( sorry to hear, that sounds like a tough situation. Unfortunately I don't think falling in love, getting married and having children is something that "just happens". Maybe it does for some people but I personally made it a goal of mine and like any goal you have to take steps to achieve it.
I think for women the steps you can are:
(1) make yourself as appealing a partner as possible. Men are visual so improve your appearance as much as possible. Be kind, pleasant, etc, don't create drama where there is none, be a positive and fun person to be around.

(2) be realistic and willing to compromise when choosing a partner. Don't compromise on important foundational things such as kindness, respect and trust. Compromise on unimportant matters such as height, dress sense, maybe they have an annoying family, maybe their earning potential or career doesn't match hers. At the age of 40 there will probably have to be some compromsie when finding a decent man.

(3) be intentional and strategic about meeting a partner. Do online dating on multiple platforms, join an introductions agency, join groups/clubs/churches that are aligned with your interests and also where men congregate e.g. hiking or biking as opposed to a knitting group. Be social and accept all invitations to group gatherings (obviously harder during COVID). Be strategic when dating- don't sleep with them too early, don't ignore red flags, don't waste your time on interactions that are going nowhere e.g. he never calls you. Also don't be afraid to make the first move- I was the one who asked my husband out. The worst they can do is say no. [/quote]

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