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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I could have written your post, OP, except in our case it was 30+ years ago! And pre-marriage. DH had created this whole narrative in his head about how I had cheated when in fact, I have never cheated. Truly bizarre and very hurtful, especially since he treated me with contempt for long stretches over the years, believing as he did. The source of your DH's problem rests not with you in ANY way, but deep within himself, with his deep-seated insecurities.

Also, see Paranoid Personality Disorder and see if it sounds familiar. [/quote]
I have to say, after the PP mentioned Borderline Personality Disorder I looked it up and some of the things seems really right on, including this sense of paranoia. Even though I never realized how much this particular thing was bothering him over many years, there are other things he has been constantly insecure and IMO downright paranoid about. For example almost every job he’s had he’s felt like people in his group were trying to backstab him and exclude him from certain projects. Once that actually happened to be true and it I think it validated his paranoia about all the other situations. His image of himself is in constant shift — one day he will think he’s a complete failure professionally and the next he will act fairly cocky about his background and skill set.

Our son was diagnosed with ADHD and has issues with emotional dysregulation — I always kind of assumed that DH had undiagnosed ADHD. But perhaps it is something more/different going on.

So what ever happened with you and your DH? Did you go to therapy together (or apart) to figure this out?[/quote]

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