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Where do you work that billing 2,100 hours is considered working all the time?[/quote]

Pre-pandemic I was billing 1700 or so, so it is a lot for me! And it sure feels like a lot on top of everything else. I mean, that doesn't count non-billables, so I'm working 60+ hours a week on top of childcare.[/quote]

OP, don't feed that troll.  I don't work in law and I got the gist of what you were saying.  And you are doing a lot.

I agree with PPs that a lot of this would feel insanely hard even without COVID.  You are not getting enough sleep.  You are producing food for your baby.  You are doing everything.

My DH is a generally great guy, but he will not jump in and say "let me take care of XYZ!"  When our first kid was a baby, I made a list of everything I was doing--and I mean, everything, even if it was something that took me 30 seconds like paying a bill online.  I showed this to my DH and told him to pick half of the stuff.  This has not held--our kids are much older now and the needs are different--but he still makes dinners on weekends, does all of our laundry, handles yardwork, and does some other kid-related stuff.  It's not half of what I was doing, and that's why we have had a nanny when our kids were little and more recently have hired house cleaners.

The risk of having a nanny coming in and out of your home every day isn't zero, but if you can find someone you trust, it is reasonably low IMO.  However, it is also okay, as PPs have said, to share with your husband what he needs to do.  He should be taking the baby out for long walks, handling nap time, etc etc.  If he can't do it, outsource it.

Also, our house cleaners came back in June.  It really is okay and I think you need all the help you can get.  They stay out of the office; kids leave the house and hang out in the yard while they work.  There was a piece in the Post a couple months back where they asked all the "experts" (Fauci, etc) and I will tell you that every single one of them had their house cleaners coming in at least every 2 weeks.  [/quote]

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