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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We have a very polite preschooler - I heard it during our parent teacher conference today and hear it from her friends' parents that my kid has taught their kids to be more polite. Not bragging, just context.

I did not grow up in a polite household. Nobody ever said please, thank you, I'm sorry. The biggest thing is modeling - you use your please, thank you, and I'm sorry's consistently. And prompt and remind every time - "please try that again using your manners - 'can I please have a drink?' not 'I want a drink' thank you, Larla." And give them new language if they're consistently saying something rude in context. Mine was saying "hey" constantly to get attention and "hey is for horses" did nothing, but saying "please say 'excuse me' not 'hey'" worked.

And model it with everyone. Your spouse, people in the grocery store, etc. You actually have to be as well mannered as you want your kids to be. [/quote]

OP here. Thanks. These kids parents certainly dont seem rude. Perhaps it's the shows they watch?

Or is this just what happens when your kids hit elementary school?

I am generally appalled at their language. "Ok, ok, she stopped talking....keep playing!" was nutso rude to me. Am I too sensitive? [/quote]

it's not a show, it's permissive parenting. They are rude and you're not too sensitive. It's not just the language they're using, it's the fact that they're elementary aged and think it's acceptable to ignore you and pick and choose what instructions they want to follow. That's more than just politeness. I think you deal with it, tell the parents you can't host anymore, or lay some ground rules and make them learn. Good news is they're older so they aren't totally clueless, even if they don't like it. I'd say, [b]"that is rude and you are not allowed to be rude in my house. If you speak to me rudely, you need to say sorry for being rude and try again. If you don't, then you can sit in time out/lose the toy you're playing with/etc[/b]." It sucks you have to do this basic parenting, but really you are doing them a favor. It's not their fault they never learned how to behave. [/quote]

OP here and that is exactly what I did. ;) Then naturally I second guessed myself: Was I too hard on them? Then I got worried about my own kids![/quote]

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