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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=jsmith123]Have you tried the book "How to Talk so Kids Will Listen"?  That and "Parenting with Love and Logic" might help here.

Also, and I know this is a big ask, but try to treat your daughter as someone who wants to be good but is struggling.  Try to think of yourself as someone who is on her team, vs. being her adversary.  [/quote]

I have this book and should reread it. Thank you.

I do try to have the "it's my job to help her" mindset, but it can be so hard, when she can be so terrible. [/quote]

She's not terrible, she's struggling.  You're not terrible, you're very concerned about her and looking for additional insights and ideas.  You both have a lot of emotional energy and physical stamina.  Did you play a sport?  Tennis, swimming, gymnastics, yoga, rock climbing???  What did you do when you were younger to engage your emotional and physical abilities?  Do you still enjoy that activity?  If yes, and if you could enjoy introducing that activity without encountering your own (negative or positive) feelings then you could consider sharing that part of your life with her.  Or let her take the classes under another, trusted adult(s) tutelage.  It's too much pressure for kids to 'love' or navigate their parent(s) 'grief' over a childhood sport, but your child may naturally share your interests bcs she shares your strengths as well as your challenges.  Physical activity can be a great and safe outlet for emotional strength of will.[/quote]

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