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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I know I have a cold and distant mother. I have no memories of her hugging me beyond my toddler years or giving me any basic praise ex) great job after a sporting event or grades etc. I was always met with blank stares or annoyance. I don’t even remember a hug or acknowledgement after my HS or college graduations. However I do have so many memories of my mom smothering my brother with praise and affection. Now as I’m in 40’s I feel very uncomfortable when my mom tried to hug me and her acknowledgements feel insincere. Now that I’m a mother I realize how this was not normal. I give my kids countless hugs a day and are always snuggling. [/quote]

Affection from my parents? Very little. In fact, I was the classic latchkey. I didn't see them that much. In daycare from my first breath. With grandparents for weekends or at points during the summer. And when old enough, home while they worked or did whatever.

Praise? They def acknowledged my good grades, bizarrely taking credit as THEY are the reasons I was smart, even though they showed zero interest. Beyond that, I was not permitted to celebrate any accomplishment because my sister a) struggled more in school and with sports and b) in addition to it being harder, she was also lazy. Any celebration of my accomplishments was viewed as not being sensitive to her.

Whatever. We aren't close. We never will be. But, I don't dwell on this aspect of my growing up. THere are worse things to remember.[/quote]

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