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[quote=Anonymous]Very little from my dad. He was very perfunctory and treated me like I was a short adult. I was proud to have gotten a 97 on a spelling test in elementary school and he told me it was unacceptable to get anything less than 100 since I had all the answers ahead of time.

He complimented ballet recitals I'd done in the past after coming home from another recital and telling me he liked the ones my other dance studio choreographed more.  He gave me my first compliment when I was 12 and I tried on my bat mitzvah dress for him before we bought it.  It felt so unnatural that I asked my mom if she told him to say that. I don't think HIS mother was particularly affectionate - everyone says she was "cold" or "difficult" or "angry".

My mother gave me a lot of ... empty praise.  You know the phrase "everyone's beautiful to their mother"?  Well, I was an ugly child. My mother gave me terrible advice regarding looks and would tell me how pretty I looked, even though I told her I wanted to look cool, not pretty. She only told me I was good at things that served her.  I was good at making tea. I don't drink tea, but guess who does?  Stuff like that.  She hugged me too tightly and for too long - I always felt like I was suffocating. She would yell at me for some minor infraction, spank me and send me to my room and then call me back down and force me to hug her.[/quote]

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