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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Op here. Hopefully DHs now chronic stomach pain issues can be treated after his endoscopy in a few weeks. It’s not so much waiting for sex, it’s how he reacts when I express sadness that I miss intimacy. When I say that, he yells and tries to shut me down as I’m crazy for even thinking of it. If he said, “ I’m sorry baby, I miss it too.” I’d just hug him and move on.

I feel like he throws temper tantrums and emotionally abuses me and takes his frustrations out on me. [/quote]

Yeah. That would suck. It is hard being chronically ill. It really ravages your mind as well as your body. But that doesn't mean you can just keep treating people close to you badly. I wonder if you could address this in a time when he's feeling better-assuming it waxes and wanes and isn't there all the time. I assume you've told him this--that you would even feel better if you understood he was missing that intimacy too? There is no bad guy in this situation, but your husband isn't being fair to you emotionally. I hope he gets better. If not, you might need to go to some therapy to discuss the issue--not even so much the sex, but getting mad at you for wanting it. It's normal to want sex. It's also normal not to when you feel bad...especially stomach issues? But, if this has been going on now for a long period of time, he needs to think about your needs to.[/quote]

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