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[quote=Anonymous]Another thought OP - if you are heart is set on adopting a baby, you may be facing either a transacial adoption or adoption of a child who could end up with "special needs".

Here's the thing - if you are a black single woman, no problem, its not a transracial adoption and so the chance of adopting a healthy, black infant is very good.  If you are white, you need to decide if you are ok with adopting a child who is not white. If you are not, and that's fine, then you need to realize that its a good possibility that a white infant you adopt will have "special needs" resulting from poor prenatal environment -drug, alcohol, mental illness, etc. Before you believe all the people who decry this as mean and wrong, start looking at adoption websites and google for "available domestic adoption situations" . Also know that adoptive parents feel pressured to never admit their child has problems. This stems from lots of reasons one being dire warnings family and friends give them that adopted children will have problems!  I have know other adoptive parents (I am one myself) say their child is perfectly healthy and fine but they don't mention that their child is in three different kinds of therapy, has an IEP, and they are desperately trying everything they can to get behavior under control. I mention this because you need to know that you have to think long term - time and energy needed for therapy, cost for private therapy, etc[/quote]

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