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[quote=Anonymous]Why don't you give yourself a deadline that includes more time for yourself and dating?  Maybe make an agreement with yourself that if you're not in a serious relationship by the time you're 36-37, you'll pursue adopting.

Your baby lust is completely normal.  I started having the same thoughts and feelings about babies (wanting to buy everything in Buy, Buy Baby, being insanely jealous of any pregnant woman or person with a baby, etc.) a few years before we actually tried to get pregnant.  DH always said the "when" of having kids was up to me.  Although I really started wanting them soon after we got married, I also wanted us to reach certain financial milestones b/f having kids and spend some time alone with my husband.  I'm so glad we waited.

A few other thoughts... No matter how financially secure you feel now, having to pay for a nanny/childcare, AND preschool, AND save for college, AND buy a house in a good school district or pay for private school, really can make even those who are financially secure suddenly feel way less so.  I also agree with the comment on adopting a girl.  My boys are still young, but already, there are times when they prefer their dad and want to do guy stuff.  Be prepared for your social life to take a big hit.  I think this is true even with two parent couples- there's just not enough time for yourself.  I also have a divorced friend who keeps dating and when things start to get serious, the men start to question if they are willing to take on her two kids.

Despite how tough it is, I'm sure that adopting is something you would never regret.  [/quote]

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