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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, you can adopt at any age!

I'd say go for it if you wanted to conceive on your own but since age matters lesser if you're adopting I'd say wait.

I come from a family all put together with several members being from closed adoption so nobody here is more pro-adoption than me. But I'll say you're trying to fill a void in your sentimental life and that's not healthy to try to put a child in a hole where just mr. right will fit.

Good for you for turning those jerks down and give it time. Focus on other things and let it happen.[/quote]

Very good point 08:56!  As an adoptee, I was trying to put my finger on why the OP's proposal bothered me and I think you hit the nail on the head.  There are enough issues surrounding adoption (feelings of abandonment, insecurity, etc) without also feeling responsible for your adopted parent's happiness or filling a void in their life.  In adoption discussions (or even anonymous sperm/egg donor scenarios), there seems to be very little focus on the implications for the adoptee and how they feel.  I know many adult adoptees, myself included, who do not think that adoption gave them a better life and there is resentment for feeling like property.[/quote]

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