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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Don't talk about where you are applying.  [/quote]

She is definitely not.  [b]The other kids are seeing which college accounts she is following on social media,[/b] then it is somehow becoming a big deal. Crazy!

The parents pass this crap onto their children.  Can we not let kids be kids???[/quote]

If this is how they are figuring out where she is applying, seems like it would be pretty easy to have some fun by adding some more schools.   [/quote]

New poster.  I like the idea of following some colleges just to mess with people's heads, I really do! But that'll bombard the student with notifications etc. about colleges that are not actually being considered. That's a pain and a distraction from notifications and information from the real ones on the list, even if the student has the "fake" colleges' messages sent to a junk file.

OP, I'm sorry people are acting so competitive. We just didn't experience this at our HS. I think a good response for you is a cryptic Mona Lisa smile followed by, "DD is handling that herself so I'm sure I'll get the list when she tells me! Kids are so self-sufficient these days." Then: Change topics immediately. For your DD, it's tougher in a way because peers can be so persistent. Is it possible to hide what DD is following on social media? My DD didn't use social media at all for the search so I'm not sure, but if DD can hide her name as a follower, I'd do that.

The post above about a guidance counselor blabbing a student's college list to other parents and commenting negatively about it, engendering comments from parents back to the poster's mom or dad -- wow. That is a huge violation, to me. If that PP is still reading, PP, did you complain about this? The counselor was far beyond "out of line" and if he did that to your kid, he will do it to many others. If this was recent, I'd complain over the counselor's head just for the sake of other students in the future.

I guess I'm sensitive to that situation because when I was in HS, our one, only, and terrible guidance counselor pushed me (and every other college-bound kid) to apply to either her alma mater or one of about three huge state schools in our state, as if those four colleges were the only options on earth. None even had the major I wanted! Crappy counselors make the whole process so much harder. Our DD was fortunate to be at a HS with good counselors and one counselor dedicated pretty much just to college stuff, so I know there are good advisers out there. But bad ones can be damaging.[/quote]

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